| | Life, in a big way, is about expectations. We go to school or work everyday because we expect that the effort and sacrifice will pay off in some form or other. It's human nature to do things and expect a result out of it. You do things precisely for the result you foresee.
Right now, with my best friends, my expectations have changed. I no longer expect them to text me every single day, or meet up with me each and every single Friday. Things have changed, so have we -- but that's not to say that I no longer need them. Even though I don't expect them to jump at the minor things that go on, I expect them to be there when shit hits the fan or completely leaves the building. The minimizing of expectations then, as I have realized, has made me more patient and forgiving. It has made me a better friend, I think. Plus the fact of course that it means less aggravation and anxiety for me.
On to point # 2. The Boys. Yikes. There is nothing wrong with expecting from them...except when they are unable to live up to these expectations and...and...and...yun na. Haha! Expectations and Boys need/deserve a whole discussion and may even involve cussing and throwing of things, so I'll end it here. The girls and I would probably use up the same amount of time and passion to discuss E and B as we would for religion. That's how serious I think the whole deal is. Ahaha!
Last. Still on Boy and Expectations, but now I'm talking about mine. Boy is not at all the type that I expected to come along, but here it is. I'm not disappointed, but I just did not expect.
See??? All these darned expectations. This is why the Buddhists decided to emphasize the value of acceptance and not expecting. Expectations are...sigh, I don't know. We just need to learn to manage them properly I guess. Like our finances!
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| | Posted 8/29/2006 9:25 AM - 1 View - 4 eProps - 2 comments
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